How to Deal With Regret: 12 Tips
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Primary Changes: Edited for readability and clarity. Reviewed and added relevant resources. Revised “Tips on How to Deal With Regret.” Added “What Is Regret” and “Impacts of Not Dealing With Regret.” New material written by Christina Canuto, LMFT-A and reviewed by Heidi Moawad, MD.
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Reviewer: Kristen Fuller, MD