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When a Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Compassionate Guide to Building a Healthy and Supportive Relationship Paperback – May 17, 2022

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"A concise and practical guide to help family and friends deal with a deeply troubled loved one. An unparalleled tool in a very limited toolbox!" —Dr. Wendy Elias Wolfson, board-certified psychiatrist

"For anyone who has found themself in the often frightening, always frustrating foreign land that is a borderline relationship, here is the ultimate guidebook. Using language that is understandable and engaging, Dr. Lobel provides practical tools, realistic talking points, and 'Key Takeaways' that together create a readable road map for even the most intrepid traveler. I will be recommending this gem to many of my clients." —Tracey Masella, licensed clinical social worker

"Unlike most clinicians, Daniel Lobel understands that the majority of people with BPD do not think they have anything wrong with them and therefore do not seek treatment. When this is the case, family members need specific information and tools that are hard to find. In this book, Lobel takes these family members from helplessness to hopefulness." —Randi Kreger, author, Stop walking on eggshells, stop walking on eggshells for parents, The Essential Family Guide to borderline personality disorder

"After reading books written by Dr. Lobel, including his latest one, When a Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder, I've gained the clarity I had been missing. This latest book is an incredible guide, almost like a pocket-therapist in some aspects for me. A truly remarkable accomplishment for which there can never be enough thanks." —J. Marlow

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DANIEL S. LOBEL, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Katonah, New York. He’s the author of When Your Daughter Has BPD: Essential Skills to Help Families Manage Borderline Personality Disorder and When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder: A Guide for Adult Children.

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Rockridge Press (May 17, 2022)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 168 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1638784906
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1638784906
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 10.4 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.5 inches
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Daniel S. Lobel, PhD, is assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, and has given classes at both State University of New York (SUNY) at Purchase and the State University of New York College of Optometry. He has written chapters in many textbooks and contributes frequently as a guest blogger on the Psychology Today website. Lobel is a psychologist with a private practice. He resides in Katonah, NY.

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Mittens
5.0 out of 5 stars Compassionate & Helpful
Reviewed in the United States on November 30, 2023
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I like how this book de-stigmatizes BPD, offers concrete goals, and both helps one to understand the psyche of someone suffering with BPD with compassion, as well as the impact on the person who loves them.

This book demonizes no one, but is clear cut regarding the dangers for those impacted by this disorder also known as a response to trauma.

Very helpful.
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Gene Wexler
5.0 out of 5 stars Do your relatives drive you crazy?
Reviewed in the United States on May 3, 2022
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5.0 out of 5 stars Do your relatives make you crazy?

Dr. Daniel Lobel’s book, When A Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), is a superb guide to trying to build a better relationship with a loved one who has BPD. If you have a relative who causes you endless emotional pain, whether it be a spouse or a child, Dr. Lobel gives you the necessary tools to understand whether your loved one has BPD.

Does your loved one blame and criticize you and others? Do they have trouble controlling their anger? Do they have trouble maintaining relationships? The book explains the defining characteristics of BPD. Of course, you should work with a qualified mental health professional to help you with a possible diagnosis of your loved one, and advice on how you can deal with it.

The book gives you the tools to establish boundaries to protect yourself in the relationship. Sadly, the BDP loved one is not going to change. You need to accept that you can become a happier person only by either changing your relationship with your BPD loved one, or ending the relationship and going through your own grieving process.

The book is easy to understand. I recommend it without reservation!
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MCS1968
5.0 out of 5 stars Can't say enough about this book!
Reviewed in the United States on May 4, 2023
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Easy to read and a great introduction to BPD. Buy it if you think anyone you know is experiencing this.
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4.0 out of 5 stars Good guidance
Reviewed in the United States on October 3, 2022
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This book will not b bought unless there is a difficulty in a relationship. I think it is a good book, caring, understanding, and with guidance. I wish it had more information from a clinical perspective, and we did find another book on the website which did give that perspective
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Carol M
5.0 out of 5 stars After 50 Years
Reviewed in the United States on December 3, 2022
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Finally I understand why my first marriage was such a disaster. If there had been an understanding then about this disease the marriage still might not have been salvaged but I could have had peace of mind.
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3.0 out of 5 stars hmm
Reviewed in the United States on September 27, 2022
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Was an interesting read
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Dorothy Eddy
5.0 out of 5 stars I'm very happy buying this book.
Reviewed in the United States on August 5, 2022
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This book is going to be very useful.
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My kids
5.0 out of 5 stars So thankful for this guide!
Reviewed in the United States on June 4, 2022
I am the daughter of a woman who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). For years, the frustration, anger, sadness, of what I suffered through and was subjected to, affected me in all areas of my life. There were dark, depressive mental clouds that followed me no matter where I was. I tried to fix things my own way, but nothing worked, so the relationship and myself continued to deteriorate into horrific depths of the unwell.
After reading books written by Dr. Lobel, including his latest one, "When a Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder", I’ve gained the clarity through the fog which I had been missing. This latest book is an incredible guide, almost like a pocket-therapist in some aspects for me. Knowing the signs, and the corrective action that I needed to implement if I wanted my relationship with my mother to continue and move forward, have been of immeasurable value. I am glad to say that the relationship has improved because of this.
This relationship is a work in progress for me, and I am confident that with the guidance from Dr. Lobel, there will be many better and happier times ahead. A truly remarkable accomplishment for which there can never be enough thanks.
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