Resentment in Marriage: Causes, Signs, & How to Get Over It
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Originally Published: June 22, 2021
Original Author: Krista Jordan, PhD
Original Reviewer: Naveed Saleh, MD, MS
Updated: March 23, 2022
Author: No Change
Reviewer: No Change
Primary Changes: Updated for readability and clarity; Reviewed and added relevant resources; Added “What Causes Resentment in Marriage?”, “Can a Marriage Recover From Resentment?”, and “How to Let Go of Resentment in Marriage”. New material written by Silvi Saxena, MBA, MSW, LSW, CCTP, OSW-C and reviewed by Dena Westphalen, PharmD.