How to Come Out
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Primary Changes: Updated for readability and clarity. Reviewed and added relevant resources. Added five new tips to “Tips for How to Come Out”, added “Examples of What to Say When Coming Out”, “Reconciling Sexuality & Spirituality”, “Safety Planning If Coming Out Doesn’t Go Well”. New material written by Lydia Antonatos, LMHC and reviewed by Kristen Fuller, MD.
Author: Meagan Turner, MA, APC, NCC
Reviewer: Naveed Saleh, MD, MS