Attachment Styles Worksheet

Attachment Styles Worksheet Overview

Your attachment style is the pattern you tend to fall into when you want to feel close to someone and safe with them. Psychiatrist John Bowlby and psychologist Mary Ainsworth first studied these patterns in young children, and later researchers found similar ones in adult relationships. Knowing your pattern can help you make sense of how you react with a partner, a parent, or a friend.

This worksheet explains the four styles and gives you two simple scales to see where you sit right now. It is meant for reflection and is not a test or a diagnosis, and most people see a bit of themselves in more than one style. You will also write about real moments when you felt unsure and plan one thing to do differently.

In this worksheet, we’ll:

• Explain the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant
• Walk you through two scales that show where you sit right now
• Provide space to note moments when you felt unsure of someone's care
• Give you prompts for moving toward a more secure way of relating