How to Help Someone With BPD: 20 Ways to Offer Support
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Primary Changes: Updated for readability and clarity. Reviewed and added relevant resources. Added “Signs That Your Loved One Has BPD” and “How to Find a Therapist”, revised “20 Ways to Help Someone With BPD”. New material written by Lydia Antonatos, LMHC, and reviewed by Dena Westphalen, PharmD.
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Reviewer: Benjamin Troy, MD