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12 Best Sex Therapy Books for 2022

Published: February 18, 2022 Updated: May 10, 2022
Published: 02/18/2022 Updated: 05/10/2022
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If you or your partner struggle with intimacy or find it difficult to communicate your desires, you may want to seek the advice of a qualified sex therapist. It can be a tricky and delicate subject, so if you’re not ready to share your intimate moments with a relative stranger, these sex therapy books may be a good starting point.

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General Sex Therapy Books

Sex is an important part of an intimate relationship, so if you and your partner are looking to improve your sex life, it’s worth putting in some time to learn all you can. These books let couples tackle sexual complications together and can accompany sex therapy or other therapeutic processes.

 Contemporary Sex Therapy: Skills in Managing Sexual Problems by Cate Campbell1. Contemporary Sex Therapy: Skills in Managing Sexual Problems

A comprehensive, modern guide to sex therapy, including gender identity, contemporary relationships, and the unique struggles they face. This book is good for those looking to address modern issues like porn-related sexual dependency, sexual trauma, and more.

Contemporary Sex Therapy not only outlines common problems but how they arise, focusing on each partner’s experience and allowing space for the wide variety of experiences available.

Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy: An Integrative Model for Exploring Desire and Intimacy by Gina Ogden2. Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy: An Integrative Model for Exploring Desire and Intimacy

This book from Dr. Gina Ogden won the 2014 AASECT Professional Book Award, the same organization we recommend ensuring your sex therapist is certified with. While written for therapists, you and your partner may still benefit from Dr. Ogden’s rounded-out approach, which moves beyond performance goals and behavioral treatments and considers the full range of the sexual experience.

Boxes and How We Fill Them: A Basic Guide to Sexual Awareness by Kristen Lilla3. Boxes and How We Fill Them: A Basic Guide to Sexual Awareness

While not a replacement for therapy, AASECT certified sex therapist Kristen Lilla still offers a solid groundwork for opening up communication about your sex life: How much you’re having, what kind you’re having, and what you need. She addresses everything from desire discrepancy to erectile dysfunction with exercises and techniques to help couples overcome them.

Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples with Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect by Ruth Cohn4. Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples with Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect

Trauma specialist Ruth Cohn dives into how trauma, neglect, and other adverse childhood experiences can shape sexuality as adults. It’s not uncommon for adults in these situations to suffer problems in their relationships and sexual experiences. Cohn offers insight, advice, and practical help for couples where one or both partners were impacted by childhood trauma.

Couples by Intention: Creating and Cultivating Relationships that Matter by Elliot Kronenfeld5. Couples by Intention: Creating and Cultivating Relationships that Matter

You’d be surprised how often sex isn’t the problem, or the solution, when it comes to marriage issues. Fostering intimacy goes beyond lighting candles and putting on soft music; successful couples create lasting relationships with intention. Actively listening and sparking curiosity in the everyday moments often inspire desire in the private ones.

This book follows several couples as they engage in group counseling and offers an intimate view of what it takes to communicate in the hard times and keep your love alive over the years.

Sex Therapy Books for Women

Between societal expectations and the “damned if you do, damned if you don’t,” mentality some have toward women’s sexuality, it can be difficult for women to communicate their needs or get them met. These books are directed specifically at women wanting to improve their sex lives.

Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How to Get It by Dr. Laurie Mintz6. Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How to Get It

The orgasm gap is real—according to one study, 64% of women said they had an orgasm at their last sexual encounter, versus 91% of men. Nearly half of women aged 18-35 have trouble reaching orgasm with a partner.

The trick, Dr. Laurie Mintz says, is to better understand how women orgasm versus how men do, and how to create opportunities for equal, more satisfying sex.

From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between by Dr. Martha Taralee7. From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between

This book focuses more on the therapist in question but you might still appreciate her honest and heartfelt collection of stories as a sexologist in Singapore.

Dr. Lee shares her personal and professional journey with vulnerability and courage while also offering advice and resources for those looking to do the same. If you’re intimidated by the idea of talking to a sex therapist, perhaps this self-help memoir will open you up to the idea.

Sex Therapy for LGBTQIA+ Individuals

Understanding desires in a society aimed mostly towards heterosexual couples can leave many LGBTQIA+ people left out. While many general sex therapy books can be applicable to any couple, sometimes it’s helpful to have something a bit more catered to your specific situation and needs.

Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Sexual Fantasies by Joe Kort8. Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Sexual Fantasies

Clinical sexologist Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW, offers a sex help book specifically for gay men in a plethora of heterosexual couple-focused books on the same topic.

Understanding your sexual fantasies as a gay man, Kort says, not only opens you up for a more fulfilling sex life but helps you better understand yourself and how your fantasies came to be.

Queer Sex: A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure, and Relationships by Juno Roche9. Queer Sex: A Trans and Non-Binary Guide to Intimacy, Pleasure, and Relationships

Written by transgender activist Juno Roche, this book is less about sexual therapy than it is about exploring intimacy and sexual relations for trans and non-binary folks who struggle to find something that echoes their sexual experiences. It also works as a primer for those that have no idea where to start as they continue to explore their gender identity.

Queer Sex may work well as companion reading for trans and non-binary individuals going through therapy while still looking for other community voices to share their stories.

Sex Therapy Books for Men

Men are no strangers to difficulties with their sexuality, from erectile dysfunction to understanding toxic masculinity’s impact on their sex life. These books offer advice and information for men and the specific challenges they face.

Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex by Michael E. Metz10. Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex

Erectile dysfunction is much more than just not being able to sustain arousal. While Viagra and other medications have become popular, renowned sex therapists Barry W. McCarthy and Michael E. Metz argue that the issue is much deeper than that.

McCarthy and Metz encourage couples to partner together to tackle ED, including understanding the relationship, creating game plans for ED moments, and fostering a healthy space for lovemaking.

Contemporary Male Sexuality by Barry & Emily McCarthy11. Contemporary Male Sexuality: Confronting Myths and Promoting Change

Sex expert and couples counselor Barry McCarthy and speech communicator Emily McCarthy tackle masculinity and sexuality head-on in this modern guide. It addresses toxic masculinity, the harmful early messages men learn as children, and the damaging effects of societal expectations placed on men and their sexuality.

The McCarthys provide information, resources, and exercises to help couples focus on mutual consent and pleasure that celebrates male sexuality in all its forms.

Sex Therapy Books for Older Adults

Couple Sexuality After 60 by Barry & Emily McCarthy12. Couple Sexuality After 60

Barry and Emily McCarthy tackle another common problem plaguing couples’ sex lives; their age. Their book confronts common assumptions that older couples are “too old” to have sex regularly or that sexual expression must be inherently kinky. Instead, they encourage couples to prioritize pleasure with the “Good Enough Sex” practice that takes away the pressure of performing, rather than enjoying sex at the moment.

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