The Grey Rock Method: Techniques & How to Use It
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Primary Changes: Updated for readability and clarity. Reviewed and added relevant resources. Revised “9 Ways to Use the Grey Rock Method”. Added “Is the Grey Rock Method Effective?” and “What Happens After Grey Rocking a Narcissist?”. New material written by Gabrielle Juliano-Villani, LCSW and reviewed by Kristen Fuller, MD.
Author: Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS
Reviewer: Rajy Abulhosn, MD