16 Fair Fighting Rules: How to Fight Fair in Relationships
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Originally Published: July 30, 2021
Original Author: Davina Tiwari, MSW, RSW, CSFT
Original Reviewer: Kristen Fuller, MD
Updated: October 13, 2022
Author: No Change
Reviewer: No Change
Primary Changes: Updated for readability and clarity. Reviewed and added relevant resources. Added “What Can Cause Conflict In a Relationship?” and “Don’t Stonewall Your Partner”. New material written by Silvi Saxena, MBA, MSW, LSW, CCTP, OSW-C and reviewed by Kristen Fuller, MD.