How to Save a Marriage After an Affair
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Originally Published: May 21, 2021
Original Author: Kimberly Panganiban, LMFT
Original Reviewer: Trishanna Sookdeo, MD, MPH, FAAFP
Updated: October 4, 2022
Author: No Change
Reviewer: No Change
Primary Changes: Updated for readability and clarity. Reviewed and added relevant resources. Added “Define Infidelity” and “What Causes an Affair?”. Revised “How to Save a Marriage After Cheating: 11 Steps”. New material written by Silvi Saxena, MBA, MSW, LSW, CCTP, OSW-C and reviewed by Kristen Fuller, MD.